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Make Choices, Not Excuses
When you don't want to do something, it is very
easy to make excuses. For some reason, excuses provide the illusion
of getting you off the hook, or making it okay not to do whatever
you committed to or planned to do. Excuses are, however, just
excuses - not really a reason to not do what you said you would
do. Instead of making excuses, make the choice. Excuses render
you powerless, while choices are empowering. You can choose
at anytime to do or not do whatever you're contemplating.
I signed up and paid for an event I was excited
about attending. However, when the date drew near, I found myself
making excuses as to why I didn't want to go. I had a lot of
work; I had out-of-town company; I had a cold; the weather wasn't
right – the list went on and on. When I stepped back and
looked at the situation, I realized that I was in fear. I was
afraid to attend the event. As exciting as it was, it was also
scary. It was something I had never done before with people
I didn't know in a place I had never been. The excuses were
covering up the fear. Once I realized that, I made a choice
to face the fear and go to the event. It felt good not to feel
that I needed to hide behind an excuse.
Excuses are not the reason you don't want to do
something. The excuses are the mask. Usually when excuses begin
to fly, there is something else going on. For me, the excuses
were covering up fear. Before you let the excuses stop you,
figure out what they are trying to tell you. Once you know what
is behind the excuses, you can make a choice to do or not do
something. You'll be operating from truth and you won't have
to hide behind an excuse.
Excuses are not the reason you don't want to do
something. There is something else going on. Until you figure
out what it is, the excuses will run you, and you will not be
at a place to make a firm choice. When you find yourself making
excuses, stop and ask yourself, "What am I afraid of?"
Or, "What are the excuses trying to tell me?" By taking
a step back and looking at the excuses from a different, more
objective perspective, you can determine the reason the excuses
are flying and then make a choice on what to do.
Coach Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, PhD provides daily motivation,
information and inspiration to thousands of busy self development
enthusiast who want to stay focused and on track to their goals
through her award winning e-zine 365 Days of Coaching. For a
free report, "The Power of Daily Action - How to create
more Wealth, Health and Happiness by Tapping Into the Power
of Daily Action" go to http://www.365daysofcoaching.com/daily_action.htm.
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